What is the key to happiness? How do we unlock and open the door to joy?
Choose to be happy.
Happiness, my friends, is a choice. The moment your consciousness wakes up in the morning you immediately make a choice on what to focus on. This focus influences your state of mind. Your state of being. Do you wake up and focus on all of the negative things in your life? It’s early. I’m tired. I want to sleep more. I don’t want to deal with work today. I have that meeting I don’t want to attend. I have to deal with this co-worker that’s being a pain in my a…I just wish it was summer already so I can get out of the house and routine. This summer I will be happy again when I can vacation. But today it sucks. It’s cold. I don’t want to adult today. I have to get that bill paid today. You can feel the weight of all this pressing on your chest, can’t you? Maybe you’re starting to slouch down in your chair…your face is starting to slant towards the floor…your shoulders have dropped.
STOP! Right now stop going down this fast road to depression.
What if you woke up and got right out of bed? No snooze, no second thoughts of sleep. You just got up and started moving. Grab that delicious cup of coffee and breath deep the aroma of alertness. Look at the window and welcome the sun rising over the horizon. Or the rain as it freshens the earth. Standing tall, shoulders back, smile on your face, proud chest. Why? Just because you can! You don’t need a reason to be happy. Is this a shocker to you? How many times have you heard someone say, “I don’t know what my problem is today, I’m just in a bad mood. I don’t really have a reason I’m just not feeling it today. Kind of down.” And we accept this! We say, “Oh I’m sorry, some days are just like that, I understand.” But if we see someone walking down the office hallway standing tall and whistling we ask, “Why are you in such a good mood today?” And if they respond, “No reason, I’m just happy.” We immediately become skeptical. Like they are withholding because something has to be going on to make them that happy.
I’m going to say it again, we chose our state.
We can consciously decide every day what we are going to focus on and as a result, alter our state of mind.
I’ve learned all of this from that guy right there, Mr. Tony Robbins. And since bringing all of this to my consciousness I’ve made a daily effort to be in control of my own happiness. And sometimes I slip. Okay, often I slip. Like every other day. This morning I slipped. The words, “There are so many reasons to be mad that this week isn’t Spring Break!” came out of my mouth to which my co-worker kindly replied, “Except we are fortunate that in our job we get a free week off. Not everyone can say that. You could work at a bank.” HELLO PERSPECTIVE! Perfect example. It’s all focus. Today I chose gratitude. To be thankful that Joshua is at school with me and in 5 short days we get a week off together.
Daily I chose to live in states of
and love (yes I said love twice because it’s worth repeating.)
I try very hard to avoid states of
And it all comes from what I chose to focus on in each situation.