Blogs have become my new favorite thing. There are so many good ones out there with great ideas, inspiring advice, crafty creativness, and feel good moments. My blog isn’t any of these things. It’s just me bragging about how much I love my son and I love my life. Nothing creative.
I have had a few people tell me that they like to read my blog because as a first time mom it helps to read about someone else in the same shoes. Boy, I can relate to that one!
This first time mommy business is scary! It’s wonderful and beautiful and absolutely the best but it makes you nervous and anxious and scared out of your pants.
So, first time mommies reading this blog, let me be the first one to tell you the things that most people fail to tell you. I am no expert, I just had my very first child a little over 3 months ago, but boy have I learned a thing or two in those 3 short months. One thing I learned is that pregnancy books and your friends have no way to truely prepare you for the aftermath of having a baby (and neither can I). Yes, they will warn you about the lack of sleep. They will tell you how you’re going to feel love you didn’t know exsisted. You will hear that labor HURTS. But here are a few things they may not tell you…
1. Breastfeeding doesn’t happen by animal instinct. It is natural, yes, but it doesn’t just happen. You and your baby have to learn together how to breastfeed.
2. The postpartum stage lasts longer than 6 weeks. Don’t expect to feel 100% back to yourself at the end of 6 weeks because you’ll be strongly disappointed. Emotionally and physically, your body needs time to readjust.
3. It is OKAY and NORMAL if you don’t fall in love with motherhood right away and you can’t seem to find happiness for awhile. They are called hormones and they are in control of everything! After awhile, they will balance themselves out again and you will slowly begin to feel like yourself once more and that is when you’ll really start to enjoy this new life called motherhood.
4. Just because the hemorrhoids didn’t show up for baby’s housewarming party doesn’t mean you’re in the clear.
5. You will be wearing diapers right along with your baby for awhile after birth.
6. This too will pass. Life goes quickly. Oh so quickly. Life happens in stages that come and go. So hold onto to faith during the challenging stages and cherish the enjoyable ones. (You won’t be up every 2 hours during the night forever.)
7. Finally, as I’m learning more and more everyday…you don’t just fall in love with your baby at first sight and that’s it. Your love grows and grows along every step of the way. That is what makes it all worth every second.